LHJ-Let’s Talk About Sex (And Why I’d Rather Just Go To Sleep)
Excerpt from Ladies Home Journal, LHJ.com/Community/Your Stories
Okay, I’ll say it: After four kids and 25 years of marriage, it’s not easy to get in the mood for sex. My husband would disagree.
I can give you the play-by-play of my first date with the man I married: the Greenwich Village restaurant, our heads tilted in conversation as if drawn by magnets. I can recall exactly what I wore, how I asked him to zip up my dress when he arrived early, and the electric charge I felt as his hand grazed my back. I remember the long walk home, the urgent kisses on the couch — all that ardor and passion.
Fast-forward almost 25 years. We brush our teeth side by side and climb under the sheets. The body pillow that I embrace to ease my back lies between us. (Bob calls it my boyfriend.) We murmur good night and within a minute I can hear his gentle snores. He knows that because I’m exhausted and a morning person, there is not a prayer he’s getting any nooky tonight.
What happened to the sultry young woman who melted with just one meaningful glance from her husband? Where did she go? How did we morph from the couple who couldn’t keep our hands off each other to a couple who need a monthly planner to even think about conjugal relations? To be honest, I can take or leave sex, and mostly I’d rather leave it. Oops, did I just say that? Read More..